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Hunger Games and Happy Marriages

Last night, we watched Hunger Games on Blu-Ray.

We could have watched it in the theater when it came out, but we sat on the couch last night and watched instead. Sometimes, when we can't get a sitter, we complain about how far we've come since that day about ten years ago when we walked into a movie theater on a Thursday night and discovered we'd seen every movie that was out.

I think the last movie we saw in a theater was Abraham Lincoln Vampire Slayer. Which was dope.That's my new phrase. I'm brining back "dope", "phat" and "boss." Wait. People still say "boss", don't they? It's not surprising because "boss' is pretty, well, boss.

Here are some excerpts from our dual commentary.


Me: OhmyGOODNESS, you should definitely grow a flamey beard.

Him: I was thinking the same thing. He looks smooth.

Me: Ew.



Me: Did he just snap that boy's neck with his bare hands? Okay, he's just a douche.

Him: They say that once you kill one person, then you know…::creepy eyebrow raise::"



Me: Of course she's going to go, he needs medicine, she HAS to go, why is he telling her not to go, he's being stupid.

Him: Are we still talking about the movie?

Me: Yes. Maybe. Okay. No.


Me: Bad guy mistake number one…

Him: Never tell the good guys how you're going to kill them.


Me: Oh, look that's like when we had to rub Flexall on each other's knees that one time.

Tariq: Don't ever say that again.


Him: Hey, where did HE come from? My money is on him -- the Black guy is going to win.

Me:I think that might be racist.

Him: It's not racist if I think he's going to win.

Me: I also think you haven't seen enough movies with endearing Black men.


Here's a little revelation: I don't like going to the movies with my husband because I love talking to him more than anything. He thinks I don't talk to him enough, but I don't think he realizes that I'm not much for small talk and all the big talk can get tiring. There's only so many times you can contemplate the mysteries of the universe in the context of humankind's existential dilemma.

The "how was your day" conversation isn't my forte though it seems to come easily to a lot of people,. 

The reason I love talking to my husband during movies or otherwise isn't because he's smart, which he is. Or clever, which he can be. Or even interesting, which he is 99% of the time (economic policy is not interesting, honey. Sorry, it just isn't.) It's not that he gets me mostly.

It's that he makes me laugh. Not just any laugh, when I'm with him I laugh with my whole heart.  It's not easy on a marriage -- having little children.

We argue. We get passive aggressive or, better yet, aggressive aggressive. But in those moments when we're both laughing so hard that the tears are coming out, I know it's fine. I know we're meant for each other.

Because we laugh.

And seem to have a penchant for mediocre one liners. 


Is there a quality in someone you love that feels redemptive for you and them? What is it? And why? 

You may open your blue books… now.

Reader Comments (15)

I remember a memorable conversation with Tyler during "God and Generals" that involved yak fur, yak beards, that Tyler should get himself a distinguished yak beard, and "Damn. Stonewall Jackson was kind of a bad-ass."

@Coal Miner's Granddaughter Hahahaha... omg, Stonewall Jackson WAS badass.

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterFaiqa

We'll be somewhere or watching TV or a movie or trying to figure out what to have for dinner and I will think something and a second later he'll say exactly what I was thinking. Through depression and PTSD and having a child with a disability, we have always had that.

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterMegan

SO agree! I'm not much of a small talk person, but I love when my hubby and I "get high school" which is a phrase we use when we are just goofing off together. LOVE IT! Great post!

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterSarah

We laugh together, too. A lot. Innuendos in front of the kids, sarcastic comments, witty one-liners. Nobody else can make me laugh at anything (including myself) like my husband can.

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAngella

Gia and I never go to the movies anymore. Mostly because she hates the theater experience. Always seem like we wind up near annoying kids whenever we go home. I've got the ability to lose myself in the film and totally ignore my surroundings, so I rarely notice any distractions until after the film when she complains about it. So it's movies and TV show marathons at home for us. Lately we've been delving into the HBO catalog. Seasons of Game of Thrones, East Bound and Down, Rome and now Deadwood. Takes us forever to watch an episode of Deadwood because we are constantly talking over it and having to rewind. We are also starting to talk like Ian McShane all the time. Which can be a whole heap of fun.

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterB.E. Earl

Very sweet

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterCorey Feldman

He makes me laugh every day. We can volly witty comments back and forth like a tennis game, and keep each other laughing. I love that. The most endearing thing, though, is that I know he's there for me always. He's my best friend and we've always got each other's back.

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLisa

As a proud black man I can say, without hesitation, that this is, in fact, racist.

Shame on thee!

August 28, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDelfin Joaquin Paris III

EXACTLY the same moments I know "all will be all right.'

The way my husband makes me laugh.

That wins out over EVERYTHING.

August 29, 2012 | Unregistered Commenteralexandra

I loved this post. Thank you for for sharing it.

August 29, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLana

I didn't know they made a movie from "God and Generals"! Thanks, CMG! I liked "Gettysburg."

Oh wait, this post was supposed to be about Faiqa.

August 29, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterthe muskrat

OMG! I love aggressive - aggressive. You're good ... Hahaha. You baited me with Hunger Games only to find out in the end, you're gushing about your husband!!! Hahahaa. I love the story =)


August 30, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKane

Mike and I laugh, too -- even in the middle of a heated argument. It's those moments full of laughter, whether on a tough day or during mundane moments, that make us so strong.

September 5, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLiz

I love that we finish each others sentences, as well as now being able to have these huge discussions on our life and where we want it to go, etc. I don't think I ever dreamed like this before her. That's my favorite, she dreams so big.

September 6, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBecca

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